Are you worried that your man is afraid of commitment? Then it’s time to seize the chance to show him that you two are perfect for each other. You’re the one who knows him best right? You know exactly what he needs and it’s time to prove that you are the right woman for him. You can reverse his fear of commitment as quickly as the two of you have this conversation. Try it out and find out what’s holding your man back from this relationship.
Don’t think for a second that your man isn’t into you. Or that he doesn’t want to be in a committed relationship with you. Guys want committed relationships too, but the promise of forever is pretty intimidating. Your man might feel like he won’t be able to pursue his personal drives or goals if he promises to share his life with you, and that just isn’t true. But no matter how much you tell your man that a long-term relationship or a forever commitment is the next logical step for the two of you, that kind of talk does nothing to calm his fears. You need to reassure your man that he can (and will) be able to maintain a sense of adventure while he’s with you. You’re just asking to be the exclusive partner he takes on these adventures!
All men naturally strive for success. They are like knights on a quest, searching to make their mark on the world in some meaningful way. And you’re here to help him do just that! When you’re ready to bring up the commitment talk again, reframe the conversation by asking him about his long-term goals. Ask him what he desires most from the bottom of his heart, his biggest dreams, and listen carefully. Because when he turns to ask about your goals, point out all the ways your goals parallel his. You aren’t asking him to sacrifice any part of himself or his dreams for you, you’re just asking to share in them. When you reframe his point of view in this way, your man will start to look at you as a part of his plan rather than a fork in the road. Help him to recognize that he doesn’t have to choose between you and the life of his dreams. He can have both!
Men say that they never fall in love because they naively believe that they can’t have love and success at the same time. But love and commitment are not distractions, they are a support system that will help your man achieve the kind of success he dreams about. So change up the conversation, reverse his fear of commitment, and shine a light on how supportive you can be!