Superhero Movies Will Tell You Everything You Need to Know About Getting a Man to Commit

Why are men so selfish sometimes? They never seem to put a high priority on their romantic relationships. They always put themselves first and don’t seem to notice or care when it hurts those around them, especially you. How are you supposed to put your man as your first priority when he is always thinking of himself? That’s totally not fair! If only you had a way to reverse his thinking and get it focused back on you…


Have you ever seen The Avengers? What could your man possibly have in common with Iron Man or Captain America? Well, beyond his devilish good looks of course, your man also has the same hero complex as the Avengers. He wants to have a sense of purpose, of meaning, of accomplishment, and that can seem completely selfish. But when you reframe that kind of thinking to reflect more on you and your relationship together, you can start to reverse his fear of commitment.


Your man’s fear of commitment rests on a biological male fear of failure. While men are naturally driven to seek out and achieve success, they are also naturally afraid of ruining this success. Your man is afraid of ruining a relationship with you. Rather than commit, he pulls away and tries to ignore this fear and in turn only ends up ignoring you. But don’t let this ruin your relationship. You want your relationship to be the success he seeks! He needs to be proud of you and your relationship together, and you also need to be proud of him. Break his fear of commitment and speak to your man’s inner hero by becoming the mirror through which he judges his own success.


It is in a man’s nature to be a hero. That is, your man is naturally going to be selfless and honorable when the opportunity arises. If you are sick of your man acting selfish and unappreciative, give him more opportunities to be your hero. Call on him when you need his help, more than just around the house, and seek him out for the hard kind of advice you need sometimes to make big life choices. When your man sees that you trust his guidance, he’s going to feel like your hero.


Your man is your hero, isn’t he? And you’d like him to stay that way. But he’s never going to know he’s the hero if you don’t tell him! Don’t talk to him about big, scary words like “commitment” or “forever”. Instead, talk to him about how much you need him. Remind him of how proud you are to be his lady. Bring up each and every triumph he has achieved during the length of your relationship, and then remind him of all the times he helped you succeed. When you tell him that your own success is because of his support, you’ll tap into your man’s natural instincts and charge his hero complex.


Reverse His Fear of Commitment

Are you worried that your man is afraid of commitment? Then it’s time to seize the chance to show him that you two are perfect for each other. You’re the one who knows him best right? You know exactly what he needs and it’s time to prove that you are the right woman for him. You can reverse his fear of commitment as quickly as the two of you have this conversation. Try it out and find out what’s holding your man back from this relationship.


Don’t think for a second that your man isn’t into you. Or that he doesn’t want to be in a committed relationship with you. Guys want committed relationships too, but the promise of forever is pretty intimidating. Your man might feel like he won’t be able to pursue his personal drives or goals if he promises to share his life with you, and that just isn’t true. But no matter how much you tell your man that a long-term relationship or a forever commitment is the next logical step for the two of you, that kind of talk does nothing to calm his fears. You need to reassure your man that he can (and will) be able to maintain a sense of adventure while he’s with you. You’re just asking to be the exclusive partner he takes on these adventures!


All men naturally strive for success. They are like knights on a quest, searching to make their mark on the world in some meaningful way. And you’re here to help him do just that! When you’re ready to bring up the commitment talk again, reframe the conversation by asking him about his long-term goals. Ask him what he desires most from the bottom of his heart, his biggest dreams, and listen carefully. Because when he turns to ask about your goals, point out all the ways your goals parallel his. You aren’t asking him to sacrifice any part of himself or his dreams for you, you’re just asking to share in them. When you reframe his point of view in this way, your man will start to look at you as a part of his plan rather than a fork in the road. Help him to recognize that he doesn’t have to choose between you and the life of his dreams. He can have both!


Men say that they never fall in love because they naively believe that they can’t have love and success at the same time. But love and commitment are not distractions, they are a support system that will help your man achieve the kind of success he dreams about. So change up the conversation, reverse his fear of commitment, and shine a light on how supportive you can be!